Our Reactive Relationships

May 14th, 2017

Do you continually meet potential partners who are not available emotionally? Did you grow up in a home where there was absolutely no room for emotional expression? Maybe, you couldn’t be too happy or too sad?  If so, you have seek out relationships with lots of drama.  I understand all of these scenarios.  When it came to relationships, I used to dive off the board whether there was water in the pool or not.

When we grow up in stressful situations, our nervous systems are basically stuck on full throttle, ready to react. Our brain stem rules! The result is highly reactive people and highly reactive relationships.  This results in tumultuous relationships that move from one extreme to the other. Also, if dramas are not happening in our external environment, we can create them from our internal imbalanced brain. Reactive responses are distractions in relationships that actually keep us from growing.

If we come from families where there was very little emotion or affection, we may meet people who stir up intense feelings for us and we then believe that this is intimacy.  But if the intense feelings are about betrayal, competition or high drama, this is not intimacy.  Real intimacy is about being real with our feelings and allowing ourselves to be vulnerable with another person when it feels safe to do so. Intensity can be a part of a healthy relationship but not when it revolves around secrecy and betrayal.

Healing our limbic brain, allows us to communicate without coming from a reactive state. It allows us to become intimate with ourselves and that intimacy can then be shared with others. When there is a true limbic connection between 2 people, there is potential for a physical, emotional, spiritual and heart connection.  This is where sex and love can come together.  This is the space where real intimacy can bloom.

My book, Attuned, addresses these problems with fun exercises to heal our limbic brain.  No laborious journaling or other assignments required, just fun playful activities to heal our brain.  Do you like singing, dancing, improv or animal communication?  Check out my book, Attuned on Amazon.com

How Do You Know if You are Allergic to Foods

December 17th, 2012

Here are a few of the common signs and symptoms of hidden food allergens –

Headaches – including Migraines, Bleeding Gums, Mental Confusion, Depression, Irritability, Insomnia, Anxiety, Seizures, Addiction, Fatigue, “Brain Fog”, Dark circles around the Eyes, Ringing in the Ears, Frequent Colds, Sinus Congestion, Tonsillitis and Sore Throats, Chest Pain, Rapid Heart Beat, High Blood Pressure, Asthma, Bronchitis, Constipation, Heartburn, Bloating, Gas, Nausea, Weight Gain, Compulsive Eating, PMS, Urinary Infections, Chronic Fatigue, Back Pain, Cold Hands and Feet, Depressed Sex Drive, Impotency, Joint Stiffness, Muscle Spasms, Leg Cramps, Sweating, and Hair Loss.

With so many varied symptoms and knowing that each person has a different response to the same food allergen, what is the most effective and easiest way to test for food allergens?

The gold standard has always been to eliminate the suspected food completely for a 2 week period and then to eat that same food with each meal for 1, 2 or 3 days until there is a response.

Another avenue for food allergy testing is to use Matrix Response Testing. This is the form of testing that we use at Nurturing Nutrition LLC. This form requires no two week preparation. We simply place the food or vial of the food on the person and using MRT, we are able to tell you if you need to avoid that particular food.

Suggestions for Cooking Meat

June 29th, 2011

What would upset you more, if the steak you ordered came to your table undercooked or overcooked?

When it comes to steak, it’s not the size that matters; it’s the consistency and texture. Overcooked meat is tough, because its fat, protein and sugar molecules have been damaged by being cooked on too high heat for too long. The result is a meat that requires more work to cut with a knife and more time to digest by the body. The worst part of this story is that many of the nutrients have been ruined.
Unfortunately, those altered nutrients form new chemical compounds in the body, including known carcinogens that damage the kidneys and blood vessels.
So, how much is too much heat? If, when you slice it, there’s no juice – it is overdone. Steak should be juicy and red, otherwise know as “medium rare”.

The Yin and Yang of Foods

May 30th, 2011

The traditional nutrient dense foods, such as bone broths, are extremely vital to our health. Another important aspect of food is in the energetics of foods as addressed in the Chinese diet system. In this system, foods can be hot, cold, building, cleansing, raw or cooked. For example, if a person is weak, they would need building foods, or if they have an overload of toxins, they would need cleansing foods. If we only look at foods as good or bad, we may miss the other healing qualities of a food. We always need to ask ourselves – how would this food work for me at this time? We know for example, that lots of sweets cause a weakening in the body, but a little bit of sweet, such as a turnip can be strengthening and tonifying. Cooked foods are building, strengthening and warming. A good example would be feeding a child who has been sick – broth or soup to rebuild and strengthen the system. Raw foods have a tendency to be not as warming as cooked foods, take more vitality to digest than cooked foods and have a cleansing effect. A good example of how raw foods could help would be eating a salad to cleanse after a period of eating lots of heavy foods. We are always looking for a balance between yin and yang and eating the right whole foods can bring our bodies into that perfect balance.

Traditional Fats and Their Role in Health

May 22nd, 2011

Insulin resistance occurs when cholesterol deficient cells can no longer let glucose into them. In order to utilize insulin, the cells need cholesterol, vitamin D and calcium. Fat and Cholesterol are beneficial partners – they coexist in the cell. Excess abdominal fat is a result of the immune system attempting to protect damaged cholesterol from getting into the organs. Fat and Cholesterol accumulate in the dysfunctional fat cells in the abdominal area – keeping it away from our vital organs. It might surprise you to learn that obesity and anorexia are two sides of the same coin. Anorexia, like obesity, is a result of a high carbohydrate diet with severe cholesterol deficiency. Without good fats, such as coconut oil, lard, duck fat, ghee or beef tallow – our weight cannot properly stabilize.

Our Teeth as a Reflection of Our Health

December 27th, 2010

Often our teeth are treated as separate and not viewed as having anything to do with our overall health.

Fortunately there have been some amazing researchers who have conducted studies in the past – showing how closely tooth and body health are interrelated.

One of those researchers,  Ralph Steinman, DDS, performed numerous experiments on rats and mice to determine how tooth decay begins.  He injected a combination of glucose and fructose into the abdomen of rats and watched as it traveled directly to the pulp of the tooth where it began the decay process.  Dr. Steinman also discovered that the normal flow of nutrients is from the abdominal area into our teeth and then out into the mouth – which gives the teeth nutrition and cleanses them.  When he fed his rats sugar orally, that natural flow was reversed causing stagnation and decay to form on the inside of the tooth.

Dr. Steinman concluded from his experiments, that it may not be what is on the surface of the tooth, but what is allowed to penetrate into the tooth that brings about tooth decay.

Dr. Weston Price – another extensive researcher and pioneering holistic dentist – traveled to remote areas of the world to find what healthy people had in common.  What types of foods did they eat to keep them healthy?  He found consistently that as long as these people stayed on their native diets, without the influence of processed foods – they remained healthy and their teeth had very little decay if any.  He even discovered a tribe of people in Africa, who filed their teeth to points, but had no dental decay and that their teeth actually formed a protective  layer after the filing was done.

Both Dr. Steinman and Dr. Price viewed tooth decay as systemic illness.  They knew the foods that would keep our bones in our body healthy would also keep our teeth(bones) healthy.  The best foods for our bodies then, are also the best foods for our teeth:  good quality saturated fats, whole fat and raw dairy products, organ meats, oysters, mussels and non-starchy vegetables.  Just as our bones are capable of repair and regeneration, so are our teeth – with good nutrition.  Our teeth will always reveal to us – our state of health.

So, the next time you go to the dentist – be sure to ask if you can make an appointment with their nutritionist on staff.

Solving the Mystery of Heart Disease

November 10th, 2010

Did you know that there is not a strong connection between cholesterol and heart disease?

In fact, if your cholesterol is high – it’s probably because your body is trying to protect itself by making more of it.  In other words, don’t shoot the messenger.  We eat 20% cholesterol and our body makes 80% of our cholesterol in our liver.  That’s because we need cholesterol for many health reasons – one being, that it acts as an antioxidant in our body.  Here are few facts regarding cholesterol:

1.  High cholesterol has no correlation to heart disease.

2. Middle-age and older women may be better off with higher cholesterol.

3.  On blood panels – 250 mg/dl used to be the normal levels for cholesterol.  Now normal is considered <200 mg/dl.

4.  High cholesterol is a result of stress, obesity, illness, alcohol consumption, carbohydrate and sugar consumption, medications, lack of activity, smoking and heavy metal toxicity.

5.  Low Cholesterol is connected to heart disease.

6.  Saturated fats are protective of HDL – the “good” cholesterol

7.  LDL is needed as we get older – it is protective to the immune system.

Risk factors for Heart Disease include:

  • Stress
  • High Triglycerides
  • Low LDL
  • Low Saturated Fat
  • Excess vegetable fats
  • Excess Carbohydrates and Sugars – which lead to elevated insulin levels
  • Lack of exercise
  • Thyroid deficiency

The two greatest contributors to heart disease are sugar consumption and a sedentary lifestyle.

Life is Better With Butter

July 17th, 2008

As late as the 1930s, indigenous people all over the world consumed at least 10 times more saturated fat daily than we do today. They had no obesity related illness, no heart disease and very little tooth decay.

Is it possible that saturated Fats kept them healthy  & could also help us today?

There may be many ways that butter – a saturated fat – could benefit us.  I would like to focus on 4 of those:

Let’s begin with the idea that Butter helps us stay fit – how could it do that?

Well butter satisfies our hunger easily.

It does that by giving us quick and steady energy  – unlike sugars and grains that tend cause spikes and dips in our blood sugar

Also, Butter supports a steady release of insulin and keeps our body in balance

A good example of that is eating butter on bread – the butter slows down the absorption into the bloodstream of the carbohydrate or sugar in the bread.

In addition – Research studies have shown that when women diet – those eating the most saturated fat – lose the most weight.

A second benefit of butter is that –

Butter Builds Good Mental Health.

Our brains are made mostly of Cholesterol and fat – and most of is saturated fat which is abundant in butter.

The fat in butter supports our bodies us of DHA – an important oil in fatty fish such as salmon.  This fatty acid is essential for healthy brain function.

LOW Cholesterol is associated with depression, aggression, suicide and mood disorders.   This is why doctors prescribe fish oil supplements for depression or mood swings.  Butter is the ingredient that stabilizes the fish oil so that our brain can benefit from it.

NEXT  –  A third and very important benefit of butter is that –

Butter Gives Us A Healthy Heart.

Did you know that saturated fat is the favorite fuel of the heart?

The body actually builds a protective cushion of saturated fat around the heart, for quick energy in times of stress.  So, just as saturated fat helps our brain handle stress – it also helps our heart handle stress.

Adding butter to the diet reduces something called lipoprotein – LP(a) –  which is a marker for heart disease.  Currently there are no medications to lower this substance in the body.  The only dietary means for lowering LP(a) is to eat saturated fats.

Eating saturated fats also raises the level of HDL – what is commonly called the good cholesterol.

AND – Butter supports the building of the muscles – the heart is a muscle.

FINALLY – The 4th and most important benefit of butter is that

Butter Tastes Delicious and Gives us Vitamins and Minerals.

The most delicious butter is the deep yellow butter from cows eating their natural diet of green grass.

Without this delicious butter – We are not able to utilize vitamins and minerals

For example – without butter – the vitamins and minerals in broccoli are unavailable to our body – even though we might be eating broccoli two or three times a week.

So enjoy all your vegetables drenched in butter!

If butter were really bad for us – wouldn’t our great grandparents have died of obesity related illness?  But most of them did not

SO, don’t deny yourselves the fat of the land  – pure grass fed cow butter.  Let it melt in your mouth and feel how much better – life is – with butter!

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